Neurotic Need |
Appropriate Expression |
The neurotic need for affection and approval. This need
is characterized by an indiscriminate wish to please others and to live up to
their expectations. The person lives for the good opinion of others and is
extremely sensitive to any sign of rejection or unfriendliness. |
The
appropriate need for affection and approval.
A discriminate hope to please others and to help their realistic
expectations inspire us to move towards excellence. |
The neurotic need for a "partner" who will
take over one's life. The person with this need is a parasite. He overvalues
love, and is extremely afraid of being deserted and left alone. |
The
appropriate need for a partner that will augment one’s life, in a give and
take harmony that characterizes a healthy love.. |
The neurotic need to restrict one's life within narrow
borders. Such a person is undemanding content with little, prefers to remain
inconspicuous, and values modesty above all else. |
The
appropriate need to focus, manifest and remain modest. |
The neurotic need for power. This need expresses itself
in craving power for its own sake in essential disrespect for others' and in
an indiscriminant glorification of strength and a contempt
for weakness. People who are afraid to exert their power openly may try to
control others through intellectual exploitation and superiority. another variety of the power drive is the need to believe
in the omnipotence of the will. Such people feel they can accomplish anything
simply by exerting will power. |
The
appropriate need to control oneself, and to help others to move towards their
excellence. |
The neurotic need to exploit others. |
The appropriate need to help others |
The neurotic need for prestige. One's self‑evaluation
is determined by the amount of public recognition received. |
The
appropriate need for positive feedback and recognition. |
The neurotic need for personal admiration. person with this need has an inflated picture of himself
and wishes to be admired on this basis! not for what
he really is. |
The
appropriate need for respect. |
The neurotic ambition for personal achievement. Such a
person wants to be the very best and drives himself to greater and greater
achievements as a result of his basic insecurity. |
The
appropriate need to move towards excellence |
The neurotic need for self‑sufficiency and
independence. Having been disappointed in his attempts to find warm! satisfying relationships with people' the person sets
himself apart from others and refuses to be tied down to anyone or anything.
He becomes a lone wolf. |
The
appropriate need to be self-reliant |
The neurotic need for perfection and unassailability.
Fearful of making mistakes and of being criticized! the
person who has this need tries to make himself impregnable and infallible. He
is constantly searching for flaws in himself so that they may be covered up
before they become obvious to others. |
The
appropriate need to do the best one can do, and to accept oneself for they
are at. |
Derived
from Karen Horney’s list of Neurotic Needs, HALL AND LINDSEY